Years ago I read a book where the daughter described how she received a phone call every Sunday from her parents. She looked forward to these phone calls because it gave her parents the opportunity of catching up with the entire family. But what she loved and looked forward to even more than her Sunday phone calls was her Monday phone calls. Dad and Mom called on Sunday but Mom called on Monday. “How are you really doing?” was the question her mother always asked.
About six weeks ago my niece reached out to me. At the end of our conversation I asked what I could do for her. “Just check up on me every once in awhile.”
As I was reflecting on our conversation I started making a mental list of other people I wanted to check up on. My list grew and grew. I kept thinking of all my family and friends. Thinking of their struggles and daily challenges. Thinking of my challenges and how they have been lightened from the simplest act of a friend acknowledging me. I so wanted to find a way to reach out.
That’s when I remembered the Monday morning “how are you really doing” phone calls. I suddenly knew a way to let all the people I love know that I love them and to tell those who are feeling alone that they are not. That next Monday I began. I sent an email to every single person I could think of who might want/need/appreciate someone asking “how are you really doing”.
And so it began. Monday emails. Encouraging emails. Thoughtful emails. How are you emails. And now, how are you blogs.
This is me checking in. This is me asking “how are you really doing?” This is “How Are You Monday”.
How was your week? What do you have planned for this week? How is the new year treating you so far?
I’m doing well. We had a few struggles with school last week but it ended on a positive note so that’s good. I got a haircut and had a cavity filled, one was more enjoyable than the other. And today brought exciting news. This year is the 30th anniversary of The Joshua Tree, the amazing album of my absolute favorite band, U2. (If you don’t know this album I highly recommend it. It will change your life.) To celebrate, U2 will be going on tour performing the entire album in full! If this isn’t exciting news I don’t know what is!!!
I was 5 when this album came out. My brother bought it and I grew up listening to it. My style of music was highly influenced by my brother. Which brings me to my main point. Today is a day of remembrance for me and my family. On this day 9 years ago we received our very own personal angel. Our angel has been watching over me ever since. There have been many times when I have felt his love, support and watchful care. Although this is a sad day it has also become a day of gratitude. Gratitude for my angel brother and all the other angels in my life. I have been blessed with so many. Good friends, family who loves me, teachers who go above and beyond for my children, doctors, even strangers who have shown me kindness or have offered words of encouragement.
Who are the angels in your life? How have you been blessed by the action of others?
I found this quote that I love and would like to share.
“You have help from both sides of the veil, and you must never forget that. When disappointment and discouragement strike… you remember and never forget that if our eyes could be opened we would see horses and chariots of fire as far as the eye can see riding at reckless speed to come to our protection.” -Jeffrey R. Holland
Please remember that you are not alone and you are so very very loved. You have amazing things that only you can do. Look for the Angels in your life, they are there and there are many.
Happy New Year!
How was your 2016? What are your big plans for 2017? Did you have a good Christmas and New Years? Are you ready to get back to real life?
We had a great holiday break. My kids loved being with our family and cousins so much that going back to school today was quite the ordeal. (I don’t blame them. It was miserable enough being the one getting them out the door.)
But really, I worry. If it was that rough at home what is the rest of their day going to look like? As soon as they hopped on their bikes and pedaled off I said a prayer. I prayed that they would have a good day. It’s been a few hours and I’m still worried and still praying that they will have a good day and I’m bracing myself for when they come home and dump all their frustrations on me.
So, what if it’s a bad day? Does that mean my prayer wasn’t answered? And is it really possible for every single day to be a good day? Chances are it will be a rough week. And life is crazy. Most days are just days with a little bit of good sprinkled here and there mixed in with large doses of bad. Do I really want my kids to have a good day every single day? No. What I really want is for my kids to learn something about themselves. To grow. To be stretched. To become better. Although it would be so nice to hear them say, “I had a good day”, everyday, the fact is they are growing and changing and I want to see them become the best little versions of themselves possible. To do that they have to overcome those bad days. So maybe, instead of praying that they will have a good day I should pray for them to learn how to get through their day. And I definitely need to pray that I will learn and grow with them.
So, I pray that you will learn something today and everyday that will help you battle your way through this life. You are strong, you are important, you are so very loved, you have something special to do that only you can do.
I love you,
Hello! I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and found peace in all situations.
How was your Christmas (and probably stressful week leading up to it). I had a great Christmas. I especially loved that it was on Sunday and my family and I were able to go to church and focus on the Savior and his sacred birth. During church we sang a beautiful version of Oh Holy Night. I almost instantly broke into tears. I sat in church (leaning on my hand and hiding behind my hair) as I sobbed. Oh Holy Night is a special song for me and my family. It is the song my brother sang opera style loudly and enthusiastically all. the. time. Year round we were serenaded with Oh Holy Night. When my brother passed away almost nine years ago and we were asked what song we wanted to sing at his funeral we all said without hesitation “Oh Holy Night”.
I think I was so emotional because I have been very focused on my friends and family who are also missing someone they love. Over the past couple of months I have had several friends who have experienced loss and my heart hurts for them. I feel with them the sadness that comes when celebrating without them. But, with the birth of Jesus Christ came the promise and hope of being with them again and that is reason to celebrate and find joy.
So, my dear dear friends, I hope and pray you will feel my love for you and more importantly Heavenly Father’s love for you. I also hope this week will be filled with fun and joy!
You are not alone and you are loved so very much.