Anniversary Monday (2-27-17)

Sorry this is so late. It’s just been a busy day. Actually, I’m writing this  while standing out of the rain in the shelter of my garage while my husband and I load up the last few things we left at our house that we are closing on the sell of tomorrow. Crazy, we owned this house for 12 years. That’s about 1/3 of my life. 

What’s even more crazy is that Wednesday my husband and I will celebrate 15 years of marriage. 15 years!?!  Where has the time gone? I find myself telling my kids “when I was your age”, and “we didn’t have that when I was a kid”. What’s worse is when I say to myself, “what has this world come too?” Basically, I’m feeling mature(old). And I’m ok with that. Things haven’t happened the way I planned them to and other things have happened that I never would have imagined. But I’m happy with my life. I’m happy with who I am. I’ve worked hard to get here.

Here I am, 15 years into my marriage, 4 kids later, living in a rental house while we sell our home of 12 years to build a new one. I didn’t finish school. I don’t have a career or even a “job”. But I am self taught when it comes to childhood development and early education. I’ve learned how to live gluten free (not by choice). I make amazing granola. I can paint any furniture you throw at me. I am completely comfortable being alone in a room full of preschoolers. I enjoy public speaking but hate talking on the phone. I have traveled to some amazing places. I’ve ran a few races. I can’t say I’ve made my home life enjoyable but man I’ve tried. And I’ve learned and grown a lot. I am not the same person I was 15 years ago, hopefully I’m a better person. 

 I’m excited for the next 15 years. What else will I learn? What more will I do?

Those are my deep thoughts for the day. Enjoy the rest of your week. And please, please, please know that you are so very loved. 

Kendra

Fueling Monday (2-20-17)


Hello friends. How are you today? How are you really? I hope you say “happy”. 

I have a theory. We know that emotions are meant to be released.  They stay festered inside until we acknowledge them. My thought is that happiness is so fleeting because it’s an emotion we release quickly. We smile, we laugh, we release our joy. 

I learned something recently.  It takes 90 seconds for emotions to leave your blood stream if you don’t fuel them. Maybe we unnecessarily fuel those negative emotions that bring us down and forget to fuel the good ones. 

There is a quote by Marjorie Pay Hinckley that I just love.                   “I choose to laugh, crying gives me a headache.”

Crying is natural to me. It comes whether I like it or not. Laughing, not so much. I honestly have to work to laugh. How lame is that? My husband is great at laughing. Especially if someone gets hurt (mean right?) Because of that our kids are pretty great at bouncing back after a scrape or bruise. And better yet, they can laugh at themselves. 

90 seconds before emotions leave your blood stream if you don’t fuel them. 

Going back to what I said about happiness being fleeting. To add to my theory, I believe that when we really release and let go of those nasty feelings the memory of them seems to fade. For example, after having a baby you remember that it hurt but you don’t feel it anymore. I think the opposite is true of happiness and joy and gratitude. They might initially go quickly BUT when we remember those good feelings we actually feel them again. 

My mom once gave me a gratitude journal. The idea was to write everyday something that you are grateful for and as you do so you become a more grateful person. The same works for the journal I keep of the funny things my kids do and say. When I remember to write down the silly things they do I feel that initial joy again and I become a more joyful mother (sometimes). 

If we fuel joy and happiness than that 90 seconds of emotions in our blood stream will actually last longer. And even better if we stop and remember those past moments of joy and happiness we get to feel them again and again and again. How cool is that?! 

Unless my theory is just a theory and not really accurate I think it’s pretty amazing. 

So, the goal is to fuel those good moments so they aren’t so fleeting. And as we fuel them they will someday burn brighter than the bad ones. 

I hope your week is bright. I hope you can remember to fuel those good feelings (and douse the bad). I’m routing for you to shine brightly. 

Love,

Kendra

Sleepy Monday (2-13-17)


Hello!

How are you today? Did you have an amazing weekend. I hope so. If not, no worries, there will be another one in a few days.

Today I am so tired. Actually, I have been so overly tired for awhile now. And my J has been tired too. He was so tired today I kept him home from school and then I did a little research on fatigue. Here’s a few things I learned…

Fatigue is:                                          Lack of motivation, lack of energy, wearing out easily, real

Fatigue isn’t:                                            Lack of passion, laziness, just being tired, fake or imagined

I also learned that increasing your vitamin B, magnesium and potassium intake can help overcome fatigue. Some good foods that are high in magnesium are: raw spinach, nuts and seeds, fish, beans and lentils, whole grains, avocados, low-fat dairy, bananas, dried fruit and dark chocolate.

Dark chocolate. Did you get that last one? Chocolate! Yes, I think I could definitely go for some of that.

There are more health benefits to dark chocolate than just fatigue. Some of them are: improves brain function, reduces stress and surprisingly, good for your teeth!

I’m suddenly not as tired. I’m feeling highly motivated. Motivated to find (and eat) some (a lot) of chocolate. (It may or may not be dark.)

My mood is also more on the happier side. With Valentine’s Day being tomorrow I will be able to raid my kids’ stash of treats. I highly suggest you do so also. And if you don’t have grade school kids don’t feel ashamed of buying yourself a nice chocolate treat. It’s ok to show yourself a little love. Besides, chocolate helps fight fatigue and reduces stress. Technically dark chocolate. Thankfully,  those assorted chocolates boxes usually have a few pieces of dark chocolate.

I read a quote today that said, “You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first .”

So, let’s all get some rest, be kind to ourselves and fill up on that chocolate!

Please, have a wonderful week. You are important, you are special, you are so loved and you are never alone.

Love,

Kendra

Ok Monday (2-6-17)

Hi there and happy Monday,
I have just one thing to say today and that is, “it’s ok”. 

It’s ok to laugh. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to get angry. It’s ok to take a nap. It’s ok to say no. It’s ok to have a messy house. It’s ok to eat cookies for dinner. It’s ok. 

Why is it ok? Because it will pass. Crying ends, anger subsides. Guilt over laughing, napping or not cleaning passes. You’ll run out of cookies and start eating those veggies eventually.

 It’s ok to have a moment. In fact I strongly encourage it! There is no possible way we can always do everything we expect ourselves to do. If all we do is focus on that we will only run in circles. The minute we take a step back, tell ourselves “it’s ok” and start again, that’s the minute we start growing. 

So, it’s ok. You are ok. I am ok. Life is ok. We’ve got this. We can do it. It’s ok. 

I love you, friend. Never forget that you are loved, you are important, you are not alone. 

Love,

Kendra