It’s Monday again! I’ve decided that Monday’s are just hard. After last Monday I had a great week. Then today came and it’s been rough. However, I’m so happy to say that my rough day today was nothing compared to what it used to be. I have had some doozies, but lately things have been much better.
What has made life better for me lately? Well, to start off, communication. Communicating with my husband, with my friends, with my doctor. Communication is key! I’ve had to learn how to talk. Because I’ve learned to talk to my husband he now knows how to help me on my hard days, or weeks. It can be embarrassing to talk. But, trust me, it helps. I recently worked up the nerve and asked a friend for help. She was unable to help at that moment so she called another friend. I was so embarrassed. But I put that aside and just said “thank you”, because as much as I didn’t want to talk about it and didn’t want people to know, I knew I needed help more. And my friends were more than helpful.
Another thing that has helped is eating well. I’m writing this as I eat ice cream, so I’m obviously not where I should be, but I’m doing way better.
Exercise comes next. It’s hard and frustrating and miserable. But this has been hands down the best thing I’ve done for myself in a long time. I didn’t make it to the gym today so I made sure I went on a short walk. Just getting outdoors and moving does a world of good.
These things are all good when you’re in a place to set them in action. But what about when you’re struggling just to breath? Well, my friend, just hang on. Find someone to talk to and cry your heart out to them. It will get better. Maybe very slowly, but I promise it will get better. And when you can catch your breath then you will be able to eat something good or go for a walk. And the next day you’ll be able to do it again. And pretty soon you will be breathing again. I promise.
Hang in there. Things get better. I promise.
Hello and happy Monday.
I just finished a 60 day challenge at my gym. The point was to push yourself to become more healthy. I did my final weigh in today and was so disappointed in myself. I began my day at the gym going to a class I really enjoy to find out it had been switched to a class that I did not enjoy. So I left the class early and tried working out on my own, which wasn’t very successful. I then went to do my final weigh in. My goal in doing this 60 day challenge was to push myself to change my rating and exercising habits to become more healthy. Although I have been exercising, which I wasn’t before, I’m still not eating well so my results weren’t very impressive. I did not want to go home and take my after pictures. I just felt like a failure. Then I came home and did what everyone does to feel better, I went on Instagram. There I read this quote:
“You’re body is not a before or an after. It is simply during and enduring a lifetime of a billion befores and afters. No photo can capture that beautiful reality.”
Ok, so this isn’t the end. There is still tomorrow and the next day and the next. But I still felt bleh. I continued browsing Instagram, not wanting to get up and do anything, and I found this quote:
“We get credit for trying, even if we don’t always succeed.” Jeffrey R. Holland
I had come home and stopped trying and I realized that I don’t get credit for not trying. So, my whole point is we need to keep trying. Keep moving. Keep doing. We get credit for any little effort we make. Now I need to get myself off the couch and go and do something. And more importantly, I need to acknowledge the good things I have done today. I made it to the gym. I ate a healthy lunch. I ran errands. I did something, therefore I am not a failure. And neither are you.
I hope you had a fabulous Christmas and are ready for a wonderful new year.
Yesterday I gave a lesson to the children in church. I shared with them a story about myself that I am going to share with you. Years ago I was feeling very sad. For months and months I was sad and empty. A friend recommended praying to feel Heavenly Father’s love for me. Because I felt nothing I wanted so badly to feel loved. So I knelt down and prayed. When I was done, nothing. So the next day I prayed again. Nothing. I prayed again and again and again. Weeks went by and I still felt empty and sad. So I kept praying. A long time went by. Then one day I was going about my normal routine, just getting ready for the day. I was brushing my hair and putting on makeup and I looked in the mirror and saw something different. Instead of the ugly Kendra that I normally saw I saw a child of God. I felt beautiful, and I smiled. For the first time in my life I couldn’t find anything to criticize about myself. I was seeing myself the way Heavenly Father does. I felt His love for me.
I think the best New Years gift I could give would be to tell you that you are a child of God. You are known and loved. He knows you. He loves you. He has a plan for you. If you look closely you will see His hand in your life. I believe this. I know this. I have felt His love for me, and I know He loves you just as much as He loves me.
As you start this new year I pray you will feel Heavenly Father’s love for you. I pray that you will feel my love for you. You are important and special. You are loved.
Acting out the Nativity was always my favorite thing to do as a kid on Christmas Eve. With seven girls in the family we often had to act it out multiple times so more than one sister could be Mary. My poor brother always played along as our Joseph. My Dad would read about Christ’s birth in the Bible. Even though we probably should have been more reverent we were often silly. This year we had a new baby in the family to play the part of baby Jesus, my nephew’s son. Even though our family is growing and making changes and we did our Nativity on Saturday, I love that we were still able to act out the Nativity.
The Nativity is the story of Christ’s birth, it’s the reason we celebrate Christmas. I love that we do celebrate Christmas. I love that we get an entire season of remembering Him.
I hope and pray that you have a lovely Christmas and that we can all carry the spirit of Christmas in our hearts for the year to come.
Today is my dad’s 70th birthday! He is the father of 8, grandfather of 22, and great grandfather of 2. We call him Grampy. In the winter he’s Santa Grampy. If you ever need a Santa for hire he’s the best one around. I remember when he was 40. That was so old! I’m getting close to 40 and realizing 40 is still just a baby. My dad makes 70 look young. When I grow up I want to be as active and helpful and hardworking as my dad.
Something my dad continuously teaches me is how to be self reliant. He and my mom have always done everything for themselves. Everything from yard work to gardening to sewing clothes to working on cars. Anything you can think of my parents have figured it out and done it together. Sometimes I feel lazy hiring someone to do the yard work or clean my house. If there is anything my parents are not it is lazy.
On top of being one amazing Santa Clause, my dad makes the best wooden spoons out there. As a kid he gave the best pony rides. He spoils his dog so much that she’s one fat and happy girl. He loves his children and grandchildren and he loves the Lord.
Someday I hope to grow up to be like my dad.
What good memories do you have of your parents? What family traditions have they shared with you?
I hope you have a wonderful week before Christmas. It’s always a busy one. Whatever you do don’t forget that you are loved and needed and special.
Two years! It’s been two years since I started my How Are You Monday emails! Thank you for reading. And thank you for all your support and kind words. I have been blessed in so many ways through these emails. I hope you have been also.
I started How Are You Monday not knowing what the response would be. I was so nervous sending out that first email. But I sent it anyway knowing there was someone who might need it. Maybe that someone is just me, but either way I will keep on writing.
I’ve had good days over the past two years and a lot of bad days too. I sometimes wonder from day to day what type of day it will be. Will I be able to get up and be productive or will it take all my energy just to make it until bedtime?
I know so many of you struggle too. We all have our challenges. Life isn’t easy. I hope these emails help you get through each week. I hope you know how important you are. How needed you are.
I heard a story yesterday about a man who was outside cleaning windows on a tall building when he fell. He was able to grab onto a rope but the rope ripped through his gloves and tore up his hands. The pain was so bad he didn’t think he could hold on. If he let go he knew he would die. But then he thought of his family and realized he could hold on for them. He held on and broke several bones but he lived.
You might feel like you can’t hang on. There are times when I can’t hang on for myself. But then I think of my family and I know I have to. Hang on friends. You are so loved. Remember that.
Hello and happy December.
I have a love/hate relationship with Amazon today. I love them because I ordered some Christmas gifts yesterday and received them today. I hate them because when being delivered the door bell was rung and woke up my sleeping toddler. I’m just going to ignore him and hope he goes back to sleep.
A few years ago Lucy saved up her money to buy a new toy. The day came when she had a whole $30 to be spent on whatever she wanted. I took her to Walmart and let her wander the toy isles. She found something she wanted but it was more than she could afford. I was tempted to pay the difference then decided if she really wanted it she could save her money for a little while longer and buy it herself. I was explaining that she didn’t have enough for that particular toy when another shopper interrupted us. “Excuse me.” I looked up to see a woman holding a $10 bill. She asked me if I would please buy a toy for my child. She went on to explain how she has little ones and knows what it’s like to not be able to buy a toy for your child. With tears in my eyes I thanked her for her generosity and refused the gift. I told her how Lucy had $30 she had saved herself and that was plenty to buy a toy. However, thank you so very much.
People are amazing. How kind was that woman in Walmart? She was in the other isle, overheard our conversation, and took money out of her own wallet and time out of her day to offer kindness to a child. What goodness!
In this crazy world, during the busiest time of the year, amidst the hustle and bustle I am going to encourage each of us to look for the goodness in others. How many cool experiences do you think we can encounter in the next week? The next month? Maybe it’s just looking someone in the eye and smiling. Maybe it’s witnessing somebody receiving service. Maybe it’s giving service. Whatever it is, it will involve us slowing down and observing. What cool things can we see other awesome people doing? I want to hear your stories over the month. I would love to be able to share some of them. I will be looking for goodness and kindness in other people and hope to have some cool experiences of my own to share.
I hope we can all take the time to notice the good around us.