Hi. How are you? How are you really doing?
The more I talk to people and get to know them, the more I realize that everybody has a story. Everyone has their own life story that is filled with struggles and heartache and pain and joy and happiness and love. Standing on the outside we only see the tiniest fraction of who they really are. We see what we choose to see and what they choose to share. We interpret what we see in a way that we choose, which is usually not the truth, or only a part of it.
I had a high school friend tell me recently that she had no idea the internal battle I struggled with in high school. She just always thought I was nice and calm. In reality I was close to the breaking point almost every single day. It took all I had to hold myself together and get through the day.
Another friend recently commented on how put together I always look. I might look that way on the outside but I’m really a mess.
Isn’t that how we all are? We all have our struggles and challenges that we are living with. We all have our flaws and broken hearts. We also have our own personal source of strength. Our own talents and dreams. We can look at someone and choose to only see them one way. Or we can look at someone and say to ourselves, “what’s their real story?”
I believe as we start asking ourselves what someone’s story is we will start to see them in a different light. In a better light that illuminates and brightens and makes whole. We can learn to see the complete person.
When we see the complete person we can act with more sympathy and kindness towards them. In doing so we will strengthen our relationships and become stronger, better people.
I truly believe that each one of us has a story waiting to be shared. I hope we can be the type of people who are ready to listen to that story.
Have a wonderful week!
Today was my kids’ first day back at school. They are in 8th, 6th, 4th and our baby turned two on Friday! I have mixed feelings about them going back to school. On one hand, I enjoy them being home. On the other hand, it’s nice to have a schedule and structure. I also like seeing them learn and grow. One things for sure, Calvin did not like saying good bye to them this morning. He wanted to go with them.
As a kid I always hated starting a new school year. I was so painfully shy. Being put into any type of social situation was torture for me. Thankfully, I have for the most part overcome that. I still get nervous in social situations but over the years I’ve forced myself out of my comfort zone. I remember one day coming home from church and thinking how much I hate feeling left out. All it took was one person to reach out to me and my fears would subside and I could function so much better in social settings. The problem was that very seldom did someone reach out to me. It hit me that if I wanted to make changes I couldn’t wait for someone else to do it. I also realized that there are probably other people out there who felt the same way I did. So, I decided to put a smile on my face, look people in the eye, and say “hello”. It was painful at first but after years of faking it I can finally greet someone without being afraid.
Being scared is just awful. It’s taken me a long time to find my courage and to not be so scared. The thing is there are many people out there who are scared, or sad, or lonely, or struggling and we never know what someone else is going through. I try to remember that when I do feel scared and that gives me the push I need to reach out when I really want to hide.
If you are going back to school or your children are, good luck. I hope this school year is great for everyone who is in school or not. And I hope non of us feels we need to hide. Have a wonderful week.
I feel I have had a lot of dark days in my life. Days and nights of sadness and an overwhelming weight pushing me down and holding me back, wishing it would all end. Thankfully, there has always been a small glimmer of hope. Something pushing me on saying, “don’t quit, keep going, you have more to do.” As hard as it is to keep going I have always been able to push through. That hope of brightness and light has kept me going.
I love this quote,
“Don’t you quit. You keep walking. You keep trying. There is help and happiness ahead.”
Jeffrey R. Holland
This quote comes from this short video that has given me much hope.
Watch it and maybe you’ll find hope on those hard days.
Keep going. Keep trying. I love you. You are doing better than you think.
I had an experience yesterday that left me feeling very humbled. In the morning I prayed that I could find someone who needed a friend. While at church a friend needed a listening ear and came to me. My prayer was answered. I am so very humbled that I was at a place and time to be there for a friend.
I think there are so many opportunities each day for us to step outside of ourselves and do more. I think if we are in tune and aware we will notice the many times throughout the day that we have been the good. It leaves me in awe to think that Heavenly Father would use me to help another. I think of the many times other people have been there to help me. I am so grateful to all those people; friends, family, even strangers. If I stop and think about it I can pick out the moments everyday that someone has been there to help me. Thank you to everyone who has been there for me. Whether you are aware of it or not you have done something just for me that I needed. I bet if we stop and think about it we will see the times we have been there for someone else. What a beautiful cycle. A little caring goes a long way. When someone shows kindness to me I naturally want to give that kindness back.
Life is hard. It’s scary and crazy and hard. But we can and do make each other’s lives better. Thank you for making my life better.
Hello and happy Monday!
I have done a lot of playing with my kids this summer. The lake, Disneyland, the cabin, weddings, and cousins, and now we are at Lagoon in Utah. I’m writing this while waiting for kids to go on a ride. It’s been a lot of fun and I’m definitely not ready for summer to be over but I have to start thinking about going back to school and all that’s involved with getting ready for that. I have to buy school supplies, clothes, shoes, even new glasses, plus we have a few cavities that need to be taken care of. It’s easy to think about life and to get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done.
I have found that I’m a natural complainer. I definitely don’t look on the bright side of things. When struggles come I don’t always take them in stride.
I’ve been thinking about this and how my life is good. I really have no reason to complain but I find myself doing it regardless.
Gordon B. Hinckley said,
“If we complain about life… we are only thinking of ourselves.”
I think he’s probably right. So, how can I change my mentality and stop complaining? That’s the question of the day. I think it starts with expressing more gratitude and finding the good. Seek the sweet in life.
So, my friends, have a wonderful week. Seek the sweet and know that I love you.
Have you ever wanted something so bad you can hardly stand it? I have a goal I’ve been working on for awhile. I’m so close but there are so many little things that keep getting in the way. Trying to figure out how to make it work can be maddening. But this is a dream of mine and I’m determined to see it through. I have a vision of what I want to happen and have been working so hard to make it work. I think the biggest challenge right now is being patient and not rushing the end result. As much as I want to call it good enough and see it finished I also want it done right. And so the waiting is killing me.
I want to be a writer. I’ve been working on publishing a children’s book. I am so close to finishing. I’m hoping that in the next couple of weeks my book will be ready to purchase on Amazon. So hang in there with me and I’ll keep you posted when it’s done!
What goals do you have? Do you have a dream? Is there anything you are working towards? How’s it going for you? Mine has been so frustrating at times but exciting too.
Hope you have a wonderful week!
Hi! How are you this week? I am feeling very grateful. Last summer at this time we were getting ready to move. And we moved around this time the summer before that. Moving is miserable, especially during an Arizona summer. I am thankful I don’t have to move this summer! As we get ready to celebrate the Fourth of July I am also grateful for this country and the freedoms I enjoy. I am thankful for my family and the life I live. I haven’t always wanted to live my life. There have been times when living has been too painful. Just existing hurt and I didn’t want to do it anymore. Thankfully I got help. I know there are people out there who are hurting. To you I say, you’re not alone. You have people who love you and want to help. I love you and I want to help. I am here for you. You are not alone!
If you know someone who struggles with thoughts of suicide here are some numbers to get help:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741
I love you all and pray for your happiness!